“There is no pain as great as the memory of joy in present grief”
It’s hard to process death and the last couple of weeks have been very difficult for the CIEE Cape Town family having to deal with the passing of Nicholas Upton. There is nothing anyone can say to the friends and family of Nick and throughout this time we can only hope that they find some semblance of peace and sound mind. Nick made an indelible impression on his friends and this was evident by the outpouring of grief at his memorial service. I won’t pretend to have known him, but sincerely hope that his friends and family can continue to embody the spirit and courage that was spoken of at length by those close to him. His parents wrote a letter that was read out during the memorial and they left us with the words of Afterglow that I believe he would want us to remember him by:
I’d like the memory of me
To be a happy one.
I’d like to leave an afterglow of smiles
When the day is done.
I’d like to leave an echo
Whispering softly down the ways.
Of happy times and laughing times
And bright sunny days.
I’d like the tears of those who grieve
To dry before the sun.
Of happy memories that
I leave when life is done.